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Doing Valentine's Day single (and loving it)

Is it just me or did Easter begin before Valentine’s Day this year? I woke up on January 1st to supermarkets bursting with cream eggs and bunny shaped chocolates - no hearts in sight. I’ve decided it’s because (like me) not everyone finds Valentines day that exciting. Now that it's February things seem to be back in order. The shelves are stacked with boxes of truffles, pink prosecco and discounted meals for two. But there’s definitely something a little forced and lurid about this annual celebration of love. Or maybe it’s just the commercialisation of it. And I’m not just saying that because I’m single, OK. Seriously.

So how do you turn this pink, fluffy, gift giving ritual into something a little more meaningful? This question has been on my mind since the beginning of the month, and the answer came when I checked my remaining holiday allowance at work. I still had some annual leave to take before the new financial year begins in April, so I booked Friday 14th off. I have decided to dedicate this Valentine’s Day to loving myself. In the iconic words of Lizzo, ‘cause I’m my own soulmate. I’ve listed some little things below for anyone else who also wants to celebrate themselves by themselves on a day made for couples.

  1. Do something that makes your heart sing. This is essentially a date for yourself. It doesn’t need to be glamorous or insta-worthy. Just make sure that it fills your soul with sparks of joy and deep satisfaction. This could be meditating, having a long bubblebath, going for a walk in the fresh air, deep cleaning your kitchen or reading a good book. For me, this is creating something to make my home more beautiful so I’m going to DIY a moon phase wall garland. Hopefully it will look a little something like this. (Yes I am addicted to Pinterest. This is a judgement free zone.)

  2. Spread the love. Valentine’s Day doesn’t just have to be about significant others. Tell someone in your life the things that you admire most about them. Show your best friend, sibling, parent, pet that you appreciate them, and say why. Kind words can go a long way and will make both of you feel fabulous. Write a message, send an email or hug it out face-to-face. You’ll feel drunk in love (with life).

  3. Do something for future you. This one is about doing something which you may not immediately appreciate, but you will thank yourself for a little bit further down the line. Following on from my last post, this could be updating your CV and applying for a new job. Or you could wash and iron your bed sheets so you have a nice clean bed to get cosy in. Choose a task that you will ultimately be grateful for. Book a holiday or sign up for a course to learn that new skill you’ve been desperate to try. Whatever it is, do it for you. I love using to send an email into the future. It’s always a nice surprise to receive words of encouragement which I may have sent a few months, or even a year ago.

  4. Treat yo’ self. Buy the flowers. Light that candle you’ve been saving. Wear a facemask and paint your nails. Been saving up for some new tech or a cute dress? Today is the day. If it makes you feel good, give yourself permission to fully enjoy it. Life is short so get that little something that has been on your mind, and really appreciate yourself. You deserve it.

However you choose to spend it, I hope you have a beautiful Valentine’s Day.

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